Booty Call

Everyone dreams of getting or receiving a booty call. A booty call is someone you can call, usually at night, to hook up with. No strings attached. No emotional issues or baggage, no roses for Valentine’s day or cheap chocolates or pretending to be romantic. A booty call is all about sex when you need it. No bullshit.

Over the years I’ve built up a booty call speed-dial. Except that nowadays they’re either an SMS or Blackberry message away (less talk is always better). Some are spontaneous, the sort of ‘u home now?’ kind of thing (less the ‘hello’ redundancies), others are more the planned ‘Fuck Friday’ variety. But booty calls they all remain.

So how do you hook yourself up with a booty call? The easiest way is through an adult dating site like fuckmate that has thousands of local South African (and international) members. You can signup for free, search for locals in your area, and get chatting, and develop that into a booty call relationship.

Locals In Your Area

What’s differentiates using a casual dating site to find a booty call from other uses, is that you are specifically looking for locals in your area. You’re not looking to simply have online sex with someone who lives in a different town or country, you want someone within say 20 kilometers of you. On the casual dating site you will be able to filter a search by people in your city or town, or people within a certain kilometer radiance from you. I’ve found that anything more than 20 kilometers, unless you live in a massive city like LA, is too much. You’re going to need to find someone in such close proximity to you that it’s very easy to just call them up.

What If Your Booty Call Is Active In Your Area

Some people get worried that they are going to bump into a booty call at a restaurant or shopping centre in their area. And that it will feel awkward (during the day with clothes on and other people around). Well it doesn’t have to be. I’ve learned from embarrassing experiences that you need to figure this out beforehand with your booty call: are you going to acknowledge them and say hi; are you going to ignore them but make eye contact; or are you going to treat them as a good friend. These parameters differ from person to person and situation and situation, so find one that works best for you.

What If Your Booty Call Wants Something More

It happens. You or your booty call may develop feelings for each other. If you just see each other for sex, the chance of that happening is small, but possible. Often your booty call is someone who has very little in common with you, with different interests and values, so the chances of feelings developing is slight. If you pick up signs that your sex partner is becoming more and more romantic, and wants to start doing ‘normal’ things with you like going to restaurants and seeing movies, you can either tell him or her that you would like to keep a boundary between ‘relationships’ and ‘fuck buddies’, or you can let it develop and see what happens. My personal advice is don’t let your booty call morph into your everyday life. It’s best to keep things separate, as things could get messy otherwise. And getting your partner to respect these boundaries is actually good for your fucking relationship.

What If You Want More Than One Booty Call

Often this is the case. Don’t be surprised if your fuck partner is also sleeping with a few other people. You may sometimes get jealous, but just accept it as the way things are. And likewise you may want to have a list of booty calls that you can make, depending on the circumstance. I have different calls for different purposes. If I just want unbelievable sex with very little conversation, there’s one call (in my case SMS) – because we literally have extremely little in common or to talk about, if I want kinky talk before, during and after sex, I have another one on my list. If I feel like sleeping out for the night, I have another call who is always willing to accommodate me.

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